A man has revealed he plans to divorce his wife who has bipolar disorder because she ‘abused’ him physically and emotionally – adding he now ‘feared’ for her life.
The unnamed 26-year-old man took to Reddit to vent his frustrations with his 30-year-old wife, who he did not name.
He explained that after they lost a child, his wife had a ‘complete mental breakdown’ and was soon diagnosed with bipolar disorder. However, he stopped taking his medication for some time, prompting him to be ‘scared’ to be around his own wife.
Posting in a thread titled ‘True off my chest’, the 26-year-old shared that his wife now ‘manages’ him for sex and buys him jewellery, and tracks his every move.
A man has revealed he plans to divorce his wife who has bipolar disorder because she ‘abused’ him – adding he now ‘feared’ for her life (stock image)
The unnamed 26-year-old man took to Reddit to vent all his frustrations with his 30-year-old wife, who he did not name.
The post read: ‘My wife and I have been married for a year now, and I just can’t take her crazy anymore. We lost a baby in January, and it triggered him into a complete emotional breakdown. He was diagnosed as bipolar a few months ago, and everything seemed to return to normal when he was on his medication.
‘He hadn’t been on medication or therapy for a long time, and everything just got worse. I honestly fear for my life and his life more than I should.
‘He violently refused to take his medication or do anything for treatment. She would scream and yell and chew me out for an hour straight and then try to hug me or have sex like nothing happened.
‘His temper is becoming extreme. He is unpredictable at best but I just have to walk on eggshells to avoid a back or shoulder injury.
‘I have wounds now. The worst of it was last night when we were in bed and I didn’t want to cuddle in the position he wanted to be in. He sat up, pulled me and hit me on the chest, neck and face.’
He explained that he had recently quit his job, making it his only income.
This resulted in him and his ‘not having enough money to live on’.
And since she has no job, the unidentified woman never leaves their house and stays at home and watches TV all day or waits for her husband to return.
The unnamed husband also shared that he is now being driven to have sex with her
The unnamed husband also shared that he is now being driven to have sex with her.
She said: ‘He manipulates me for sex hours after I get home (yes, it’s very manipulative now) and guilt trips me when I want to go see my friends or go to the gym or church.
‘I’m not taking summer college courses, so I have a little more free time than in the spring, and he makes sure I spend every minute with him. I often feel less like his partner and more like his slave.’
He explained that his behavior had become so ‘obsessive’ that he found an Apple Airtag in his car and backpack.
‘He’s controlling, he’s manipulative, calculating and really cruel. Almost everything he does is scientifically designed to get something from me or to punish me for not being good enough.
‘I found a chart on some note on her phone that helped me do things for her, like sex or housework or asking me to buy her a present or take her out. He has a comprehensive list of my daily schedule and activities.
‘Like if she wants to have sex or watch a certain movie, or go out to eat, or want me to buy her jewelry or perfume or clothes or shoes, she has a way of asking me and making me do it, with rewards and punishments. To engage mentally or not. It’s like training a dog, I’m not her husband.’
He reveals that he feels that his life is a ‘nightmare’, adding that since he discovered the list of ways to successfully manipulate her, he can no longer look at her.
He revealed that he feels his life is a ‘nightmare’, adding that since discovering the list he successfully manipulated her with, he can no longer look at her.
The man said his plan was to leave the Airtags in his work locker and meet with a divorce attorney.
He mentions that he will also tell his parents about everything.
However, he said the only thing that held him back was his wife’s reaction.
He explained: ‘My big problem is I don’t know how he’s going to react when he gets the news. I’m thinking I can get my documents and valuables out of the apartment when I get home and pretend I’m moving them to a storage unit, and then call her from a hotel.
‘I would put the police on standby if he even gave any indication that he was going to hurt himself.
‘But yes, I’m done. I can’t do it anymore. Maybe I’m weak, or not strong, or an **hole for not being with him, but I can’t live like this.’
Users of the social media platform flooded the comments section with suggestions, urging him to go to the police before informing his wife.
One person commented: ‘Speaking to your local police and letting them know you’re leaving and not missing… that way if he takes that route they’re aware of the situation.’
Users of the social media platform flooded the comments section with suggestions, urging him to go to the police before breaking the news to his wife.
Another user wrote: ‘Or if he gets really mad and comes at you with more than his fists. If you’re bruised when you go to talk to them, document them in case you have to subdue them to get out. Good luck and stay safe.’
‘Also, don’t forget that a restraining order can help if you want to live elsewhere and you’re keen to separate. It’s just a piece of paper, but it’ll be helpful to keep on record in case you go missing or something. I say this as a woman, for context.
‘The mental health part is so hard to deal with, it must be a drain on support and you sound like a good guy. I hope things get better for you,’ one person added.
‘I went through something similar with my ex-wife and the cops in my town actually stood up and applauded. I was able to stay in contact with a sergeant who initially responded to a call to our home at the beginning of our problem, he didn’t do much until or unless he became violent but he was a great asset. They see it all the time,’ commented another.
Someone else wrote: ‘There are ways for the OP to work with legal authorities to ensure that he is involuntarily committed to psychiatric treatment, the op can easily pack their bags and plan a smooth transition as well as get this person they once helped. .’
Another user said: ‘Definitely get your stuff out of the house. It sounds like a terrible scenario. I hope you can go somewhere safe where he won’t find you. Hopefully your lease ends soon so you can give notice.’
One person commented: ‘It’s time to get the authorities involved so your wife can get proper help, like being committed to hospital for treatment. He is a danger to you and anyone around him. Mental health problems are no joke and the longer you let them go without treatment the worse things can get.’