Six signs your partner is trying to ‘peacefully exit’ your relationship – and if they keep agreeing with you, you should be worried
Cassandra Kalpaksis, a divorce lawyer, reveals the signs of your partner’s ‘quiet exit’
A divorce lawyer has revealed six signs your partner is trying to ‘leave’ your marriage – and it’s bad news if they’re suddenly too agreeable.
Cassandra Kalpaxis, an expert in family law, told FEMAIL some people prefer to let their marriage fade slowly – rather than end it with a bang.
But like quitting a job quietly – the signs are easy to spot once you know.
The first major sign is if they start to ‘agree on everything’.
‘While fighting isn’t the answer, if your partner is apathetic about everything and coming off as detached, it could be an early sign that they’re withdrawing from the relationship and shutting down emotionally and psychologically,’ she explained.
Cassandra Kalpaxis, an expert in family law, told FEMAIL that some people prefer to let their marriage slowly fade away – rather than end it abruptly.
Being unwilling to engage in conversation or ‘telling them what they think you want to hear’ is another.
This ends the ‘whatever makes you happy, dear’ relationship.
‘It’s one thing to keep the peace, but if your partner decides it’s not worth getting involved or expressing different views, opinions, interests or desires, then the damage may already be done,’ she said.
‘Not feeling safe or enthusiastic about communicating our desires to a partner is a big warning sign.’
If they stop talking about the future, this is the third major sign.
‘It can be hard to see the lack of future planning when life gets busy and goes on and on. Regularly checking in with your partner to discuss your dreams and goals and how they align can help you recognize where you’re most aligned and identify any challenges as they arise,’ she said.
‘If a partner is taking a step back, they won’t feel comfortable discussing these things if they’re not sure they still see a future with you,’ she adds.
If your partner spends more time on their phone than listening to you, that’s a red flag
The fourth sign, according to Cassandra, is if they spend more time on the phone with you.
‘We’re all guilty of being glued to our phones in this day and age, but you can tell when someone is more interested in the screen than in your company,’ he said.
‘It feels special when spending quality time together.’
Six signs your partner is ‘quietly leaving’ the relationship:
1 – They start to agree with you more
2 – They say what you want to hear
3 – They stop talking about the future
4 – They spend more time on the phone with you
5 – They stay home while you go out
6 – Back to work
If they prefer to stay home while you go out and stop attending events with you, including family gatherings, something is wrong.
‘It’s a huge red flag that someone leaving your relationship is cool. If they’re not interested in engaging with your people, it’s worth having the conversation. There may be another reason for this – eg. mental health, or dislike of someone in particular, but it can also be a sign of them regressing.’
The ultimate red flag is when your partner often chooses to go back to work because they’d rather be there than at home.
‘Work-life balance is a huge challenge in many relationships, but actively working longer hours than necessary speaks volumes.’
Cassandra has done divorce retreats in the past, this August she is holding a retreat for couples looking to mend their relationships.
The ‘Ignite the Fire Retreat’ will be held in August.